Let’s ruffle some feathers, shall we?

There’s a disturbing trend rippling through society — one that quietly (and sometimes blatantly) strips men of their dignity, silences their voices, and shames them for standing in their natural power. Masculinity is being labelled as toxic. Strength mistaken for aggression. Leadership confused with domination. And heaven forbid a man raises his voice — suddenly he’s dangerous, unstable, or oppressive. But when a woman does the same? She's passionate, empowered, fierce.

Can we call out the double standard?

This isn’t a game of who suffers more. This is a call to balance — to honour both the masculine and the feminine — in their sacred, healthy, unfiltered expressions.

Because right now, the scales are wildly tipped, and men are copping it.

When Did Being a Man Become a Problem?

Somewhere along the path of empowerment, liberation, and well-intentioned feminism, the pendulum swung so far left it knocked men off their feet. The narrative shifted from empowering women to diminishing men — as if men were the enemy to overcome rather than the counterpart to honour.

Let’s be clear — strong women don’t need to belittle men to rise.

Yet we now live in a time where a man who owns his ‘no’ is labelled controlling. A man who asserts a boundary is seen as emotionally unavailable. And a man who doesn’t tolerate manipulation? He’s cold, defensive or “afraid of a strong woman.”

No, he’s not afraid — he’s done playing games.

Men are now walking on eggshells. They’re expected to be soft, submissive, and emotionally fluent at all times — while simultaneously being protective, decisive and financially capable. And don’t you dare let him mess it up, or he’ll be dragged across social media like a public stoning.

This isn’t equality. This is erasure.

Men Are Not Disposable

We've seen it — women joking that “men are replaceable” or that “I don’t need a man.” It’s thrown around like glitter on a girls’ night out. But beneath the sass and memes is a wound — a deep distrust of the masculine and a societal disconnection from the sacred masculine role.

Let me say it loud: Men are not disposable.

We need strong men. Men who know who they are. Men who hold the line. Men who say no to control and yes to integrity. Men who will protect with presence and power — not because women can’t protect themselves — but because they want to. Because it’s in their nature to serve, hold and offer stability in chaos.

The masculine is not meant to be passive. It is the sword, the spine, the structure. Without it, the feminine collapses into chaos — or becomes hyper-masculinised, trying to do it all.

The Rise of the Masculinised Woman

Oh yes, I’m going there.

The boss babe era, the independent woman movement — beautiful, yes. Necessary in many ways. But in its shadow, it bred something dangerous: women so deep in their masculine they forgot the power of their softness. They lead with control, manipulation, strategy, and dominance — then wonder why men retreat or resist.

It’s not about going back in time or taking away rights. This is about coming home to truth.

When the feminine loses trust in the masculine, she becomes hard. When the masculine is demonised, he becomes silent. And now? We have women barking orders and men shrinking in shame.

Enough.

We Must Restore Respect for the Sacred Masculine

This isn’t about returning to rigid gender roles or toxic patriarchy. This is about remembering the essence of the masculine and the feminine — and how they dance, not compete.

The sacred masculine protects. He provides presence, direction, discipline, and grounded leadership. He is fierce when needed, gentle when necessary, and unwavering in his truth.

And when this kind of man is met with respect, not ridicule — he thrives.

Men don’t need to be “fixed.” They need to be seen. Heard. Valued. They need to know it’s safe to lead, to speak, to stand tall without being cut down by a thousand micro-aggressions or accusations of being “too much.”

Because strong men are not the threat. Weak men pretending to be strong — now that’s dangerous.

So, What Now?

We start by cleaning up our own projections. We stop blaming men for the wounds our fathers left. We drop the need to control and instead learn to trust again. We invite our men to speak — and actually listen without immediately correcting, dismissing, or competing.

We honour their no the same way we demand ours to be respected.

And we support the brothers, fathers, sons, lovers, and leaders who are trying to navigate a world that shames them simply for existing in their nature.

It’s time to bring back the strong, grounded, unapologetic man.

Not to dominate.
Not to control.
But to stand as an equal force beside the sacred feminine.

Unshakable in his essence.
Unmoved by manipulation.
Rooted in truth.

He’s not a threat. He’s a gift.

And it’s time we treated him like one.

Want to share this message far and wide? Good. Let it stir something. Let it spark a few uncomfortable conversations. Let it reawaken the masculine — in men, and in us all.

Because this isn’t about war between the sexes.

This is about coming home to wholeness.